Ever thought, “Why do I still not feel confident, even after doing everything right?” You try harder, push more, and take on bigger tasks. Say yes when you want to say no. And still, something inside feels shaky.
Let me tell you, confidence doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from remembering who you are. I know it sounds simple. But we tend to forget. Life piles up on school, jobs, expectations, failures, and people’s opinions. And before we know it, we’re living a version of ourselves we don’t even recognize.
We chase the next thing, thinking that maybe it will make us feel strong or good enough. But it never sticks, does it? So, if you’re tired of faking confidence, tired of doubting yourself, and wondering what’s wrong with you… keep reading. I’m here to bring a positive change to you.
Why More Isn’t the Answer
We live in a “more is better” world. More success. More money. More followers. More hustle. But does more really help you feel grounded and strong within yourself?
Most of the time, NO.
- The secret trap: The more you chase achievements, the more you tie your confidence to those results.
- So, when things don’t go your way? Your confidence shakes.
- You start thinking, “I must not be good enough.”
But, let me tell you the truth:
Confidence that depends on external stuff will always be shaky. That job title, that compliment, that goal? It might give you growth. But only for a while. Then you’re back to square one, looking for the next thing to feel “enough.” We call this the “confidence loop of burnout.” And it’s so easy to fall into it.
Especially when everyone around you is playing the same game. You can do everything “right” and still feel off, still feel invisible, still feel like you’re not measuring up.
The Confidence Loop of Burnout
You’ve probably been here before:
- You feel low or “not enough.”
- So, you push yourself to do more.
- You succeed a little, feel better… for a moment.
- Then the doubt comes back.
- So, you repeat the cycle again.
And again. And again. That’s exhausting.
No wonder so many people feel tired, anxious, and disconnected. They’re chasing confidence in all the wrong places. It’s not laziness. It’s not a weakness. It’s just a misplaced effort. You’re working so hard to prove something when what you really need is to remember something. You were never meant to build your worth on things that can be taken away.
Million Dollars Question – Where Does Confidence Come From?
Confidence isn’t something you earn. It’s something you remember. You were born with confidence. Think about kids. They sing loudly, wear wild outfits, and ask questions. They don’t worry about what people think. They’re just being themselves.
Then over time, stuff happens:
- Someone laughs at your idea.
- A teacher criticizes your work.
- A parent says, “That’s not how we do things.”
- You get compared to others.
Slowly, you stop trusting yourself. You stop taking up space. So, confidence isn’t about learning something new. It’s about unlearning all the noise that told you wasn’t enough. That noise was never true. Confidence is about returning to who you were before the world told you who to be.
What You Actually Need
People often think they need:
- More certifications
- Another degree
- A bigger following
- A better wardrobe
But what they really need is:
- Self-trust
- Clarity
- Boundaries
- Healing old stories
- Safe connection
That’s the work. And it’s not flashy, but it’s real. And real change comes from within, not outside. You don’t need to fix it yourself. You need to find yourself.
How to Start Remembering Who You Are
Okay, so how do you actually do this? It starts with slowing down. You can’t reconnect with yourself when your mind is racing, and your calendar is packed. You need space to hear yourself again. Here are a few steps to start that process:
- Ask Real Questions
Not surface-level stuff. Go deeper.
- What parts of me have I been hiding?
- When do I feel most like myself?
- Whose voice is in my head right now, mine or someone else’s?
The goal isn’t to have perfect answers. It’s to be honest. Self-awareness is the first step to real confidence.
- Get Quiet
Confidence grows in stillness. Not in the noise of “doing more.” It takes 10 minutes. No phone. No music. Just you. It might have felt weird at first. But over time, you’ll start to hear yourself again.
You’ll start noticing:
- Your real thoughts
- Your gut feelings
- What matters to you
That’s when change starts.
- Stop Comparing
Comparison is one of the biggest confidence killers. It tricks you into thinking you’re behind or broken. But here’s the thing: you’re not supposed to be like anyone else. Your journey, pace, and path are yours. Period.
Even if it looks different. Even if it’s slower. It still matters. And guess what? People respect authenticity more than perfection.
- Do One Brave Thing a Day
This doesn’t mean huge, bold moves.
It could be:
- Saying NO when you usually say YES.
- Speaking your mind in a meeting.
- Wearing something you love.
- Asking for help.
Each small act reminds you that I can trust myself. And trust builds confidence. Not because you nailed it, but because you showed up anyway.
- Talk to Yourself Like a Friend
You know that voice in your head? If you talked to your best friend like that, would they stick around? Probably not.
So why are you so harsh with yourself? Start saying things like:
- “I’m learning, and that’s okay.”
- “I tried, and that matters.”
- “I’m allowed to take up space.”
Kind self-talk isn’t cheesy. It’s necessary.
Meet Dawn Attanasio
Dawn Attanasio is a Certified Life Coach dedicated to helping you reconnect with your true self and rediscover the confidence you were born with. With a compassionate, non-judgmental approach, Dawn creates a safe space where you can let go of external pressures and outdated stories that no longer serve you. Through her coaching, she walks beside you as you clear the noise, build self-trust, and step back into the authentic, powerful version of yourself — because real confidence starts with remembering who you are, not doing more.
Your Confidence Is Already There
The version of you that felt playful, curious, proud, silly, and loud? They’re still inside. You don’t need to become someone new. You just need to come back to you.
That’s why at Purposeful Life Coach; I don’t teach you how to be someone else. I will help you remember who you already know. Because of that version? It’s more than enough. It doesn’t need permission. It doesn’t need likes or praise. It just needs space to breathe again.
I help you in:
- Clear the old stories
- Quiet the noise
- Build self-trust
- Stop chasing and start remembering
We hold a space that feels loving, grounded, and real. A space where you can take a breath and just be. No judgment. No pressure. Just honest connection and support. This is where real confidence lives.
You’re Not Falling Apart – You’re Awakening.
Right now, you might be stuck in any of these:
- Feeling like you’re never “doing enough”
- Constantly doubting your choices
- Comparing yourself to others and coming up short
- Feeling disconnected from your real self
- Looking confident on the outside but feeling lost inside
- Not even sure who you are anymore
- You’re not alone.
- You’re not broken.
- You’re just out of alignment.
And this isn’t just about “mindset.” It’s about coming home to yourself. That’s the work we do together. At Purposeful Life Coach, we walk with you. Not ahead of you. Not dragging you. But beside you. We create a space where you can drop the pressure, drop masks, and finally feel safe to be you.
We believe that:
- You are not too much.
- You are not behind.
- You don’t need to fix it.
You just need space to reconnect. And when you do, everything changes. Because you already have what it takes. You always did. You just forgot. And that’s okay.
The ‘version of YOU’ that you’ve been missing is still here.
Let’s help you remember. If you’re feeling called to go deeper, to really reconnect with the version of you that you miss, reach out today. Let’s talk. Let’s get curious. Let’s be honest. Book a free discovery call at Purposeful Life Coach and come back to you that’s been waiting. Because you don’t need to do more. You just need to remember who you are. And you don’t have to remember being alone.
